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Fear and Loathing in Your Career.

20 Aug

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I wrote a post on my personal blog Straighten My Tie today, and I must say it is the first time I’ve ever made such an affirmative statement in my professional field to a large audience. I love writing and respect others that write. Yet, and still, I am ever lacking confidence to take my skills to the next level. I see all of these young and successful writers and live vicariously through them. They are doing what I wish I could. My self-deprecating nature holds me back. Not to mention the confidence—some days I have it; some days I don’t. Sue me! Continue reading

From the Broke Files: My Top 10 List

14 Jul

Sport posted From the Broke Files a couple of weeks ago and it got me to thinking, mostly about how I’m financially poor, yet so socially rich. I’ve decided to share my top 10 list of socially rich activities that have sort of nudged themselves into my newfound 30s lifestyle.

  1. Going to a baseball game in the rain, eating hot dogs, and sharing a drink with a friend. (Free tickets, btw.)
  2. Impromtu photos shoots with photog friends in the park.
  3. Evening bike rides down the river front.
  4. Taco Tuesdays ($1 Tacos – In your face! Or, my face in this case.)
  5. Happy Hour with the TTTM Community.
  6. Thrift shoppping.  (I’m still learning how to do this. I’m queer. We like to shop. We’ll have more about this in a later post. Stay tuned!)
  7. Picnics and a game of bean bags in the park. *sigh*
  8. Volunteering. Project Angel Heart comes to mind.
  9. Ooooo, brainstorm sessions.
  10. Potluck brunches rooftop. Nom. Nom. Nom.

You see, there is so much that can be done without spending a lot of $$$. And, you betta believe, I’m going to live it up. I guess these are the joys of growing up and becoming comfortable with being yourself. Thank you, 30s.

The 30 Year Assessment

15 Jun

By theVar
Blogger of StraightenMyTie

“Am I following my dreams or am I just stuck,” you ask? Mayhaps…to both!?! Just like many of you, my predictions of what 30 and beyond would be was much different than it actually is. I saw myself as a successful editor in a publishing house, or better yet, an English professor pioneering accessible pedagogical methodologies. I know. Ambitious, huh? Oh, the joy of youth and dreaming. What a bastardization of reality!

The fact of the matter is I negotiated the two and found a resting place right in the middle. I’m a copy writer. Not of the New York ad agency, award winning variety; just of the Denver, paying my bills, enjoying my life variety. And as much as I’d like to say I’m not close to where I wanted to be, I really am.  You see at the foundation of those “the sky is the limit” ideas I had of my life during my earlier years was simply being a writer. Trust me. I’m constantly arguing (with myself) that there’s nothing worse than getting what you wanted. Sometimes I think I’m right.

So yes, I am following my dreams. Yes, I am stuck. But, unless you’re some ass-kissing, privileged, over-achieving schmuck (or various combination of the said) you’re in the same boat I’m in—forever reconciling the need to be somebody you thought you’d be with the fact that you are precisely who you want to be. I can hear those of you saying, “I don’t want be here.” If that’s the case, change bitches. Otherwise, my word is bond. Now sit down.

Wait. Before you get comfortable, I’d like to know about your 30 year assessment. Maybe you’re exactly where you knew you’d be. Maybe you’ve taking a few side streets and aren’t quite there. The question is how are you embracing the choices you’ve made?

Images courtesy of Jesse Brettin, SPK Media.

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