When they’re not putting out, what are you putting into the relationship?
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Sex, No sex, and WTF is going on…Let’s talk, Scoundrels.
21 Sep13 Responses to “Sex, No sex, and WTF is going on…Let’s talk, Scoundrels.”
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More hours of sleep… Unfortunately!
Oh, Ryan. *tisk, tisk* but fun. ny.
Patience and thoughtfulness. It’s never going to be all sex all the time forever. You have to have other ways to connect to each other. Can you hold a conversation that doesn’t end up in filthy 1-900 talk? Do you still like being around each other fully clothed? Do you do things for each other without the motive of getting laid? Unless you can answer yes to ALL of these questions, the sex doesn’t really mean anything.
Now that is thoughtfulness. You’re such a good girlfriend (and an even better Lady Crush *swoon*).
You make me want to be 30!
Shucks, Nancy. We 30-somethings are a welcoming bunch, ya know. Well, at least here on TTTM. :)
Lots of patience. There’s a reason they aren’t putting out, you may never know what it is. But, if they still want to be in a relationship without getting it on every other hour, then the best you can do is wait it out until the next phase of the moon.
D.T., I would think the lack of communication would be a detriment to the relationship. The fact that one partner may never know is unsettling to me. If one can’t communicate about something as small, and big for some, as sex, is there anything they can discuss?
However, you are right. Patience is definitely key in the grand scheme, as well.
Sigh… That’s all I’ve got
That’s sounds about right. /facepalm
A wise woman once told me: “Honey, you can only fuck ’em for so long, then you gotta talk to ’em”. It’s held me in good stead thus far….
I definitely agree that when the sexual tide changes, patience is a virtue and communication is key.. but sometimes I just want you to put your bits and my bits together without having to make it a cinematic romantic climax of emotions and just let me make my O-face.
Wait…people put out when you’re actually in a relationship with them? I think I have something backwards ’cause I only get any before/after relationships.